The Attraction Archetypes Quiz

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For each statement, choose how true it is of you in your dating and relationships. Your first, honest reaction is almost always the most accurate one. There are no good or bad answers, and no archetype is better than another. Please answer every statement - skipped items skew your results.

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I know what I want in a partner and I am not willing to settle for less.
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I bring warmth and playfulness to dating, and connections form quickly around me.
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Being desired gives me a lift that I catch myself chasing.
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I am good at sensing what is really going on beneath what someone says.
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I fall into pleasing people and then feel frustrated and overlooked.
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I value my independence so much that it is hard to see where a partner would actually fit.
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Flirting feels natural, playful and fun to me.
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I find it much easier to give care than to receive it.
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I find it easy to trust people and to expect the best of them.
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I believe I am worthy of receiving love, help and support.
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I feel that if I do not step in and handle things, they will not get done.
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I feel at home in my own skin and confident in my desires.
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I find it hard to be on my own between relationships.
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I look after myself properly so that what I give comes from a full cup.
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I catch myself measuring the men I date against an ideal who does not really exist.
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I worry that if I slowed things down physically, he would lose interest.
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I can let someone see my sadness, hurt or disappointment instead of pretending I am fine.
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I put everyone else's needs ahead of my own, almost on autopilot.
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I can say no and name my boundaries without feeling I am risking the whole relationship.
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I am comfortable expressing and enjoying my sensuality.
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I catch myself seeking attention or reassurance to feel worthy of love.
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I see a relationship as an equal partnership of mutual support.
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I write men off quickly, then occasionally wonder if I let a good one go.
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It is easier to let someone into my body than into my heart.
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I am comfortable letting someone else take the lead sometimes.
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I end up carrying more than my share in relationships, and quietly resenting it.
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I hold a clear vision for my life and I am actively building towards it.
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I can build physical and emotional intimacy together, not one instead of the other.
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When something in my life goes wrong, part of me hopes someone will arrive and fix it.
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I can support a partner without taking over responsibility for his life.
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People have told me I can come across as guarded or hard to get to know.
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My connections tend to stay at chemistry and never quite deepen.
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