Our approach is based on taking authentic action, building relationship skills and cultivating sustainable attraction.
Contrary to other dating coaches, you won’t find any sleazy pickup tactics here. Our philosophy is that if you want a satisfying relationship, you need to begin as you wish to continue - without playing games or wearing a false mask.
If you’re seeking a long-term, committed relationship, and are ready to refine your dating strategy and show your best self to potential partners, read on to learn more about what it means to work with us!
Our approach is based on taking authentic action, building relationship skills and cultivating sustainable attraction.
Contrary to other dating coaches, you won’t find any sleazy pickup tactics here. Our philosophy is that if you want a satisfying relationship, you need to begin as you wish to continue - without playing games or wearing a false mask.
If you’re seeking a long-term, committed relationship, and are ready to refine your dating strategy and show your best self to potential partners, read on to learn more about what it means to work with us!
Since 2016 we’ve been helping singles find and cultivate true love and a relationship that is built to last.
Since 2016 we’ve been helping singles find and cultivate true love and a relationship that is built to last.
People date for a whole range of reasons.
Some date for fun or for sex…
Others date for validation or freebies!
Then of course there are those who are genuinely dating for love. People like you, who are looking for someone special to share the next chapters of their lives with.
And that’s exactly who we are here to help!
What are you dating for?
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We offer relationship coaching and programs that help singles and couples build the secure relationship of their dreams, because a great relationship is worth it!
Meet The Team:
LEARN MORE ABOUT JIVENY
Hi, I’m Jiveny. I founded Dating For Love in 2016 shortly after meeting my now husband Joe, because I’d finally overcome my own dating struggles and wanted to help others do the same and experience true love. Prior to that, I’d noticed a big education gap between the kind of epic love story most people are seeking and their ability to make it happen for themselves.
The truth is, so few of us have had good relationship role models, and much modern dating advice is a misguided attempt of the blind leading the blind even further astray! I figured if I could help people develop their dating and relationships skills to achieve good love, this knowledge and understanding would naturally be passed down from generation to generation, resulting in a much happier and healthier world.
With this in mind, my goal as a coach is to give you the tools you need to build strong, lasting connections without sacrificing your authenticity in the process.
Hi, I’m Jiveny. I founded Dating For Love in 2016 shortly after meeting my now husband Joe, because I’d finally overcome my own dating struggles and wanted to help others do the same and experience true love. Prior to that, I’d noticed a big education gap between the kind of epic love story most people are seeking and their ability to make it happen for themselves.
The truth is, so few of us have had good relationship role models, and much modern dating advice is a misguided attempt of the blind leading the blind even further astray! I figured if I could help people develop their dating and relationships skills to achieve good love, this knowledge and understanding would naturally be passed down from generation to generation, resulting in a much happier and healthier world.
With this in mind, my goal as a coach is to give you the tools you need to build strong, lasting connections without sacrificing your authenticity in the process.
Founder & Head Coach
LEARN MORE ABOUT JOE
Hey, I’m Joe. Relationships didn’t always come easy to me - I’ve certainly had my fair share of awkward moments and relationship fails. All this has added fuel to my fire, eventually leading me to study at the Relationship Coaching Institute and join forces with my wife, Jiveny to create Dating For Love.
I know how lonely looking for love can be, whether you’re chronically single or struggling with a bad relationship. This is why I’ve made it my mission to help people like you overcome the blocks and barriers that are keeping you stuck, so that you can finally experience the relationship you’ve always wanted. Often we just need a little helping hand!
Hey, I’m Joe. Relationships didn’t always come easy to me - I’ve certainly had my fair share of awkward moments and relationship fails. All this has added fuel to my fire, eventually leading me to study at the Relationship Coaching Institute and join forces with my wife, Jiveny to create Dating For Love.
I know how lonely looking for love can be, whether you’re chronically single or struggling with a bad relationship. This is why I’ve made it my mission to help people like you overcome the blocks and barriers that are keeping you stuck, so that you can finally experience the relationship you’ve always wanted. Often we just need a little helping hand!
Founder & Dating / Relationship Coach
LEARN MORE ABOUT CARA
Hey, I’m Cara. I know what it’s like to be alone and fear the possibility of never finding ‘your person’ as well as the pain and loneliness that comes with being involved with the wrong person. Fuelled by my own journey of dating and challenging relationships I soon came to realise that I was missing some key pieces needed to make a great relationship work – one where we could both thrive together.
This led me to undertake the Conscious Relationship Training in Vancouver, BC. Following that, I later obtained my coaching certification from the Relationship Coaching Institute. This knowledge and understanding has since led to the most fulfilling, stable, supportive and loving relationship of my life! Now, my personal growth journey fuels my passion for helping others to discover themselves, grow, and find love in their own unique way.
As your coach, my goal is to expand your self-knowledge and provide you with the tools to create the loving relationship you’ve always dreamed of.
Hey, I’m Cara. I know what it’s like to be alone and fear the possibility of never finding ‘your person’ as well as the pain and loneliness that comes with being involved with the wrong person. Fuelled by my own journey of dating and challenging relationships I soon came to realise that I was missing some key pieces needed to make a great relationship work – one where we could both thrive together.
This led me to undertake the Conscious Relationship Training in Vancouver, BC. Following that, I obtained my coaching certification from the Relationship Coaching Institute. This knowledge and understanding has since led to the most fulfilling, stable, supportive and loving relationship of my life! Now, my personal growth journey fuels my passion for helping others to discover themselves, grow, and find love in their own unique way.
As your coach, my goal is to expand your self-knowledge and provide you with the tools to create the loving relationship you’ve always dreamed of.
International Dating / Relationship Coach
Hey there, I’m Rosette, and I’m honoured to be a part of the Dating For Love team. What excites me most about my role is the opportunity to guide our valued clients on their journey to love, whether it’s through designing eye-catching graphics or offering personalised assistance via email. At Dating For Love, I find a sense of fulfilment beyond the daily tasks by utilising my skills, embracing creativity, and learning from the best dating coaches.
Hey there, I’m Rosette, and I’m honoured to be a part of the Dating For Love team. What excites me most about my role is the opportunity to guide our valued clients on their journey to love, whether it’s through designing eye-catching graphics or offering personalised assistance via email. At Dating For Love, I find a sense of fulfilment beyond the daily tasks by utilising my skills, embracing creativity, and learning from the best dating coaches.
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And we understand this paradox - relationships can be either our biggest source of happiness (if we get it right) or our biggest source of misery (if we get it wrong).
The problem is, most people have bought into the fairytale that good love will just happen to us when the time is right. And when it doesn’t happen for us like the fairytale suggests, we often start to beat ourselves up and wonder what’s wrong with me!?
The truth is, love is not enough, and getting the love you want requires a bit of effort and thoughtfulness…
With this in mind, we recognise that by supporting people to develop their dating and relationship skills, they too can experience a meaningful, fun and secure relationship.
The good news is all this can be learned - we’ve seen this happen for our clients over and over again!
What’s even better is that this approach tends to have a positive ripple effect upon your wider community; because relationship skills are life skills that help us to connect and find our own sense of belonging and purpose in society. And when we lead with good relationship habits, others tend to follow!
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In the modern era, people seem to have lost faith in relationships, yet long for one more than ever.
In the modern era, people seem to have lost faith in relationships, yet long for one more than ever.
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That’s why we use a variety of tools and exercises to suit the specific needs of our clients, such as online learning and coaching.
Saying that, our approach is a little different to most dating coaches. You won’t hear us telling you to pretend to be someone you’re not. Rather, we’re here to help you step into the best version of yourself!
Since 2016, we’ve observed the key relationship skills and habits needed in order to build and keep a great relationship.
When you understand these archetypes, you can use them like a map to orient yourself toward strengths and improve your weaknesses.
Each archetype reflects key elements of a healthy relationship: being safe, effective, warm and sexy. They’re designed to help you identify and develop core dating and relationships skills, and communicate these skills to a potential partner while you’re dating them.
Our framework will help you to get clear on what you really bring to a relationship - the good and the bad - and begin to understand what areas you need to work on to build a relationship from a place of mutual respect and love.
As relationship coaches, we realise that everyone is unique and at a different point in their relationship journey.
We’ve distilled these into the 4 key Dating For Love archetypes.
Our Approach
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Work closely with one of our coaches on your dating journey. Build a healthy dating mindset, gain a deeper understanding of the blindspots and barriers holding you back, and get personal support along your journey to great love!
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We offer a variety of self-paced programs to support you in attracting and building an extraordinary relationship. Learn how to date for love and build sustainable attraction as you navigate the modern dating scene with more clarity and insight.
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Knowing your attraction archetype reveals your strengths and your pitfalls. It takes you closer to truly understanding modern dating dynamics, improving your relationship skills, and expanding your opportunities to find a great partner.
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How we can help you along your journey to love...
Sheridan, 34 | teacher
I was single for about 10 years before I started working with Jiveny and felt like I had lost my way. I wanted to feel more grounded, trust in my decision making and be genuinely confident and happy with who I was so that I could meet someone to share my life with, but constant overthinking, self sabotage and lack of solid boundaries were holding me back.
Since working with Jiveny, I have developed a relationship with a man who lights up my soul and my smile. He is someone I can fully be myself around, who I can lean on and who I have so much fun and adventure with. He is like no-one I have met before and he brings out a better, stronger and more motivated version of myself and I couldn’t feel more grateful for the relationship we have. After 3 years of dating, we’re now married and parents to a beautiful baby girl!
If I hadn’t made the choice to work with Jiveny, I think I would have continued with the uncertainty, self sabotage and the feeling of being stuck for a long time.
Since working with Jiveny I have developed a relationship with a man who lights up my soul and my smile.
ALEX, 32 | MEN'S WORK FACILITATOR
Jiveny has a warm and non-judgmental approach to coaching. I found it fascinating how her questions opened up new possibilities that could be applied to my relationship with my partner immediately. I felt very comfortable working together as I could see that Jiveny really does care about helping people to have a great relationship - with full expression, while honouring each other’s wants and needs.
Thank you for your gift to the world. It is needed now more than ever before as many of us have very poor education and awareness when it comes to navigating the most intimate relating we will ever do!
A warm and non-judgemental approach to coaching
Aisha, 36 | MARKETING COMMUNICATIONS MANAGER
Before working with Jiveny I had experienced a handful of serious relationships that I had mostly sabotaged. I was also in these relationships for the wrong reasons so I guess they were destined to fail.
I found the work I did with Jiveny ground breaking. I was finally able to get to the bottom of the ‘whys’ and ‘hows’ regarding my failed relationships. She was able to help me to open myself to what I really wanted and let go of what wasn’t working.
I have since found a lifelong partner who I have started a family with. Applying the things I learned from Jiveny to the early stages of our relationship really helped us to progress our connection in a much healthier way. We’ve been together for four years now and have one-year-old twin baby girls. My partner is loyal beyond words - this was something I haven’t really ever been able to say before. He puts his family first and is such a loving and involved father.
I found the work I did with Jiveny ground breaking and have since found a lifelong partner who I have started a family with.
JOSH, 25 | ENGINEER
When I first started working with Jiveny I was plagued with anxiety that I would never get to have a proper girlfriend. I had low self-esteem and struggled with anxiety.
Well to go straight to the biggest point – after working with Jiveny I soon met someone and now we are building a life together. I’ve also worked through some of the intimacy issues that I have had in the past.
This work has allowed me to become a lot more conscious of myself and how I am feeling, taking the time out to ask myself how I am each day. This has really helped to manage my anxiety. Overall, I found working with Jiveny very helpful.
From anxious to a happy, healthy relationship
MARGARET, 73 | RETIRED Researcher
Before I started to work with Jiveny, I was always seeming to be attracted to men who were unavailable. At age 69, I also thought I was much too old to find a loving, committed relationship. But age really does not come into it and I learned that by working and connecting with Jiveny.
At the time, I also felt quite negatively about myself. Yet Jiveny’s support, encouragement and wisdom meant that overtime, I again was able to change my view of myself.
Now I’m in a relationship with a really lovely man. He ticks all of the boxes that I was looking for - he’s good at communicating and listening, secure in himself, warm, affectionate and both interesting and interested in many things. We've been together for nearly 3 years now and I can really truthfully say that this is a relationship which is so satisfying and fulfilling – more than I ever thought a relationship could be. It’s just the most extraordinary experience!
“I used to think relationships just weren’t for me and that I was too old to find a loving, committed relationship. Now I’m in a relationship with a really lovely man. This is a relationship which is so satisfying & fulfilling - more than I ever thought it could be!”
JOHN, 33 | BUILDING SURVEYOR
Jiveny has helped me understand that I needed to work on myself and improve certain areas of my life which I had pushed aside as ‘not important’. Working on these areas has helped me become a more confident person, removed some of my social anxiety and assisted me to step outside of my comfort zone.
Since working together, I have improved my flirting skills and general conversation skills. I have also recognised that most women want a man to take the first step and approach. Together we have worked on developing stronger leadership skills, better understanding women and growing my internal confidence. This has put me in a better position to find the right partner that will complement me in life and has made the dating process a lot easier.
I have improved my flirting and general conversation skills.
Stacey, 34 | Senior Ministerial Adviser
Most of us have not learnt how to date ‘well’ or with clarity or intention. As they say: luck is not a strategy! Between therapy and talking about your dates with your friends, there is an important but untapped space. Jiveny fills this gap, empowering you to tackle the often confusing world of dating and relating with insight and intention. Her coaching equips you with a different kind of confidence and poise that comes from having a handle on some fundamental relationship truths and wisdom.
Now I don’t second guess my partner’s express interest, affection and devotion to me! I feel cherished and adored and cared for in my relationship. I am also getting more comfortable with letting my partner ‘lead’, though it’s still a work in progress! Most of all, I am confident that we are building a sustainable relationship that will carry us throughout our lives; that we are methodically exploring the right and important ‘big questions’ around values, goals and our life journey together.
I credit Jiveny & The Alchemy of Attraction course with setting me up for long-term, sustainable success with my now husbdand who is literally the man of my dreams.
Lauren, 33 | digital Marketing Executive
Before working with Jiveny I had just come out of a 6-year relationship and was realising I didn’t want to repeat the same mistakes or be with that kind of person again. After working with Jiveny I experienced a major shift in my dating behaviour. I was much more able to identify partners that were not suitable for me and avoid them, as well as understand how to navigate dating better and really get to know a partner as we built the connection.
Best of all this journey has led me to a healthy, fulfilling relationship where I feel a new awareness and confidence! I know what I want and deserve in a partner and I am able to bring my best self to the relationship. I didn’t think it was truly possible to find this kind of relationship before working with Jiveny.
I didn’t think it was truly possible to find this kind of relationship before working with Jiveny.
SEB, 37 | LAWYER
I was disillusioned with my dating life and seeking a long-term healthy relationship so I contacted Jiveny. From our very first session, I felt comfortable and excited to begin working with her.
Through our work, she helped me identify my barriers, clarify what I wanted in a partner and what a healthy relationship looked like. I was also able to identify the mistakes I had been making. This work has really helped me to developed much more confidence in dating and relationship and I was excited to put what we worked on into practice.
I am now in the best relationship I have ever had and excited for the future. I attribute this to the work I did with Jiveny. Whether you are in the dating world or in a relationship, I would not hesitate in recommending Jiveny. She has changed my life for the better, making me the happiest I’ve been in a long time.
Jiveny has changed my life for the better, making me the happiest I’ve been in a long time.
KRISTINA, 30 | PHYSIOTHERAPIST
Before working with Jiveny I was struggling with choosing the wrong men and navigating my insecurities. I wanted a serious, committed relationship but I often had trouble keeping guys interested or would wind up chasing them away. Other times, I would go for an easy guy who liked me (which was never very satisfying).
Since working together, I’ve noticed a huge shift in my mindset and approach to dating for the better. I’m much more able to manage my reactions and approach, allowing the guys I am interested in to come to me.
I’ve now met a great guy who is proactive in building a healthy relationship with me and who puts effort in to keep things fun and interesting. Even better he also takes an interest in personal development and makes open communication feel effortless and natural. Overall, I have been amazed with how much I have learnt and progressed and I cannot recommend Jiveny highly enough!
I have been amazed with how much I have learnt and progressed.
PAUL, 46 | IT MANAGER
I found working with Jiveny was a valuable process of self discovery. It was helpful to learn the small things that can really make a difference in meeting someone as well as strategies to detach from the outcome of an interaction and be more present with women. The insights and exercises helped me to understand the sorts of things I'd done wrong in the past that most women aren't going to overlook.
Her female perspective was helpful because there are just some things we don't learn or pick up on along the way - sometimes someone actually needs to tell us directly. Also, while Jiveny's coaching is primarily focused on helping us to meet people and find that special someone, I found it also gave me a vehicle to figure out the sort of life I want to be living and how to be happy with or without a partner.
Her female perspective was helpful because there are just some things we don't learn or pick up on along the way
TANISHA, 22 | STUDENT
Before working with Jiveny I struggled to attract men who I was genuinely interested in; and whenever I managed to, I found it to be quite the challenge to hold their interest. It made me feel afraid and unworthy constantly; like I needed to prove my worth whenever I felt the other person was uninterested.
I craved to be part of a healthy, committed relationship without having to carry the baggage I’d collated over the years of my childhood. Jiveny has done wonders in showing me where my inner strength was hiding and I learned that it is possible for my wants and needs to be met in a relationship. I’m now 13 months into a new relationship that is healthy and fulfilling and I’d highly recommend Jiveny for anyone looking to refocus their minds and hearts.
I craved to be part of a healthy, committed relationship without having to carry the baggage I’d collated over the years of my childhood.
DANIEL, 25 | RESEARCH ASSISTANT
I would definitely recommend Jiveny to anyone looking for support in their own journey of personal growth. I have found that working with her has made an astronomical difference to my dating life and the relationships I have with my work colleagues and family members.
I have always appreciated Jiveny's approach to understanding what I need and tailoring our sessions accordingly. Jiveny has also offered additional resources for those like me, who love to self learn. All in all, my work with Jiveny has fundamentally changed the way I view the world around me for the better.
Working with Jiveny has made an astronomical difference to my dating life and the relationships
ANNE, 56 | TRAVEL INDUSTRY Executive
Before working with Jiveny I had been meandering the online dating circuit for about 18 months with no real luck beyond a third date. Jiveny helped me to understand the destructive patterns I had created for myself and assisted me in developing a greater awareness of the ways in which I was self-sabotaging my love life.
Throughout our sessions together, I felt a genuine sense of care from Jiveny and never rushed. Her course materials and resources are fantastic and really helped me to get clear on what I want from a relationship and why. The best support has been in understanding the decisions I have made and how these have drawn the wrong kinds of people to me in the past. The tools she has given me to navigate dating and relationships are invaluable.
Best of all, I am now in a healthy long-term relationship with a wonderful man.
The tools she has given me to navigate dating and relationships are invaluable.
ZOE, 31 | PROJECT MANAGER
Jiveny gave me permission to speak openly about some of my deepest fears, anxieties, desires and dreams and was completely present with me as I talked. Her questions guided me to self-assess and reflect on my own beliefs and attitudes in ways that I had never considered before.
Through this, I discovered new ways to think about and overcome habitual thought patterns that had been preventing me from self-acceptance. Most of all, Jiveny helped me identify the deeper core feelings and unmet needs stopping me from living my life fully. After our coaching sessions I've felt a deeper sense clarity, confidence and a true sense of empowerment.
Clarity, confidence and a true sense of empowerment
