Our approach is based on taking authentic action, building relationship skills and cultivating sustainable attraction.
Contrary to other dating coaches, you won’t find any sleazy pickup tactics here. Our philosophy is that if you want a satisfying relationship, you need to begin as you wish to continue - without playing games or wearing a false mask.
If you’re seeking a long-term, committed relationship, and are ready to refine your dating strategy and show your best self to potential partners, read on to learn more about what it means to work with us!
Since 2016 we’ve been helping singles find and cultivate true love and a relationship that is built to last.
People date for a whole range of reasons.
Some date for fun or for sex…
Others date for validation or freebies!
Then of course there are those who are genuinely dating for love. People like you, who are looking for someone special to share the next chapters of their lives with.
And that’s exactly who we are here to help!
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We offer relationship coaching and programs that help singles and couples build the secure relationship of their dreams, because a great relationship is worth it!
Meet The Team:
Hi, I’m Jiveny. I founded Dating For Love in 2016 shortly after meeting my now husband Joe, because I’d finally overcome my own dating struggles and wanted to help others do the same and experience true love. Prior to that, I’d noticed a big education gap between the kind of epic love story most people are seeking and their ability to make it happen for themselves.
The truth is, so few of us have had good relationship role models, and much modern dating advice is a misguided attempt of the blind leading the blind even further astray! I figured if I could help people develop their dating and relationships skills to achieve good love, this knowledge and understanding would naturally be passed down from generation to generation, resulting in a much happier and healthier world.
With this in mind, my goal as a coach is to give you the tools you need to build strong, lasting connections without sacrificing your authenticity in the process.
Founder & Head Coach
Hey, I’m Joe. Relationships didn’t always come easy to me - I’ve certainly had my fair share of awkward moments and relationship fails. All this has added fuel to my fire, eventually leading me to study at the Relationship Coaching Institute and join forces with my wife, Jiveny to create Dating For Love.
I know how lonely looking for love can be, whether you’re chronically single or struggling with a bad relationship. This is why I’ve made it my mission to help people like you overcome the blocks and barriers that are keeping you stuck, so that you can finally experience the relationship you’ve always wanted. Often we just need a little helping hand!
Founder & Dating / Relationship Coach
Hey, I’m Cara. I know what it’s like to be alone and fear the possibility of never finding ‘your person’ as well as the pain and loneliness that comes with being involved with the wrong person. Fuelled by my own journey of dating and challenging relationships I soon came to realise that I was missing some key pieces needed to make a great relationship work – one where we could both thrive together.
This led me to undertake the Conscious Relationship Training in Vancouver, BC. Following that, I obtained my coaching certification from the Relationship Coaching Institute. This knowledge and understanding has since led to the most fulfilling, stable, supportive and loving relationship of my life! Now, my personal growth journey fuels my passion for helping others to discover themselves, grow, and find love in their own unique way.
As your coach, my goal is to expand your self-knowledge and provide you with the tools to create the loving relationship you’ve always dreamed of.
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Hey there, I’m Rosette, and I’m honoured to be a part of the Dating For Love team. What excites me most about my role is the opportunity to guide our valued clients on their journey to love, whether it’s through designing eye-catching graphics or offering personalised assistance via email. At Dating For Love, I find a sense of fulfilment beyond the daily tasks by utilising my skills, embracing creativity, and learning from the best dating coaches.
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And we understand this paradox - relationships can be either our biggest source of happiness (if we get it right) or our biggest source of misery (if we get it wrong).
The problem is, most people have bought into the fairytale that good love will just happen to us when the time is right. And when it doesn’t happen for us like the fairytale suggests, we often start to beat ourselves up and wonder what’s wrong with me!?
The truth is, love is not enough, and getting the love you want requires a bit of effort and thoughtfulness…
With this in mind, we recognise that by supporting people to develop their dating and relationship skills, they too can experience a meaningful, fun and secure relationship.
The good news is all this can be learned - we’ve seen this happen for our clients over and over again!
What’s even better is that this approach tends to have a positive ripple effect upon your wider community; because relationship skills are life skills that help us to connect and find our own sense of belonging and purpose in society. And when we lead with good relationship habits, others tend to follow!
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We help singles become couples and couples build the secure relationship of their dreams.
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In the modern era, people seem to have lost faith in relationships, yet long for one more than ever.
In the modern era, people seem to have lost faith in relationships, yet long for one more than ever.
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That’s why we use a variety of tools and exercises to suit the specific needs of our clients, such as online learning and coaching.
Saying that, our approach is a little different to most dating coaches. You won’t hear us telling you to pretend to be someone you’re not. Rather, we’re here to help you step into the best version of yourself!
Since 2016, we’ve observed the key relationship skills and habits needed in order to build and keep a great relationship.
When you understand these archetypes, you can use them like a map to orient yourself toward strengths and improve your weaknesses.
Each archetype reflects key elements of a healthy relationship: being safe, effective, warm and sexy. They’re designed to help you identify and develop core dating and relationships skills, and communicate these skills to a potential partner while you’re dating them.
Our framework will help you to get clear on what you really bring to a relationship - the good and the bad - and begin to understand what areas you need to work on to build a relationship from a place of mutual respect and love.
As relationship coaches, we realise that everyone is unique and at a different point in their relationship journey.
We’ve distilled these into the 4 key Dating For Love archetypes.
Our Approach
Ben, 28
Thanks to our sessions, I learned how to step out of my comfort zone and build confidence in social settings. I also found the courage to pursue a crush, and it has turned out to be reciprocated.
Fast forward to today: I’m in a secure, committed relationship with an incredible woman I met through a trivia night at my cricket club. She’s everything I’ve ever wanted—intelligent, kind, and effortlessly stunning. For the first time, I’ve been able to fully be myself in a relationship, sharing openly and feeling truly seen.
When I first started coaching with Joe, I was shy, defeatist, and lacked direction in dating. I never imagined how much things could change.
Lauren, 33
Before working with Jiveny I had just come out of a 6-year relationship and was realising I didn’t want to repeat the same mistakes or be with that kind of person again. Since working with Jiveny I’ve experienced a major shift in my dating behaviour. I was much more able to identify partners that were not suitable for me and avoid them, as well as understand how to navigate dating better and really get to know a partner as we built the connection.
Best of all this journey has led me to a healthy, fulfilling relationship where I feel a new awareness and confidence!
I'm now married to the man of my dreams – which is huge, because I didn’t think it was truly possible to find this kind of relationship before!
Julian, 40
Given many of my early dating experiences were negative (being rejected, ghosted and the like) combined with a lack of relationship experience, I soon realised success would have been difficult to achieve on my own.
These negative experiences were taking a toll on my self-esteem which I knew if left unaddressed could lead me to give up on dating all together. Joe broke the journey down into practical steps which enabled me to feel a sense of progress as I continued to date and let go of self doubt. I’ve since met a gorgeous woman whom I can genuinely see a great future with!
Now I’m dating a wonderful woman and have a much greater awareness of relationships. I also feel much more confident in myself.
Stacey, 34
Learning about the archetypes of empowered feminine energy and what it means to be an ‘integrated’ woman is ground-breaking. Not just for my way of relating within my relationship, but within myself and relating to the world at large.
Most of all, I am confident that we are building a sustainable relationship that will carry us throughout our lives; that we are methodically exploring the right and important ‘big questions’ around values, goals and our life journey together.
Now I don’t second guess my partner’s interest, affection and devotion to me! I feel cherished and adored and cared for in my relationship.
Pranav, 26
If you choose to work with Cara, I guarantee three things will happen: #1 She will show you your blind spots and limiting beliefs like nobody's business. #2 She will not just help you see or observe those blind spots or limiting beliefs, but she'll help you overcome them effortlessly. #3 She will show you things that you did not even know you needed to see that have been holding you back from accomplishing what you need to accomplish.
"In just the span of 60 minutes Cara was able to reprogram decades of cultural programming that fundamentally affected my relationships with women, transforming my relationship to dating and so many other areas of my life.”
Aisha, 36
Before working with Jiveny I had experienced a handful of serious relationships that I had mostly sabotaged. I found the work we did together ground breaking. I was finally able to get to the bottom of the ‘whys’ and ‘hows’ regarding my failed relationships.
I have since found a lifelong partner who I have started a family with. He puts his family first and is such a loving and involved father. Applying the things I learned from Jiveny to the early stages of our relationship really helped us to progress our connection in a much healthier way.
I found the work we did together ground breaking and have since found a lifelong partner who I have started a family with.
Patrick, 37
In the past I’d had lots of short relationships and hook-ups as I struggled with neediness, keeping the relationship fun, being monogamous and feeling secure and worthy of a relationship.
Learning about the archetypes in the order that they are presented really opened my eyes to my dating strategy and what needed to change to serve my mission for lasting romance. Life's pretty great and I’m dating a woman I'm pretty into right now which feels really supportive and deep as well as fun and silly.
I appreciate the dedication Joe has to this work as it clearly springs from his own dedication to be the best man he can be.
Tanvi, 24
Since working together I have a much clearer picture of what is important to me, and what I would want out of a relationship and future partner. I have more self-confidence and am able to identify quicker if someone is actually looking for something serious, or if they are following the same patterns as my last relationships. I feel more self-confident and assured in my choices, and have a clearer picture of what is and feels right to me. If I hadn’t made the choice to work with Cara, I think I would have still been dating without understanding my intentions and goals.
Before working with Cara I was in multiple situationships, dating emotionally unavailable men and getting hurt by their lack of commitment.
KELVIN, 27
Some people might consider the idea of a dating coach to be ‘lame,’ but the truth is that the majority of men out there are quite clueless when it comes to dating. I know this because I was one of those men.
While you may eventually learn how to date well through trial and error, working with Joe can greatly expedite the process.
Working with Joe makes me feel like I am able to take manageable steps towards my goals of becoming socially confident and taking control of my dating life.
Margaret, 74
Before I started to work with Jiveny, I was always seeming to be attracted to men who were unavailable. At age 69, I also thought I was much too old to find a loving, committed relationship. But age really does not come into it and I learned that by working and connecting with Jiveny. At the time, I also felt quite negatively about myself. Yet Jiveny’s support, encouragement and wisdom meant that overtime, I again was able to change my view of myself.
Now I’m in a relationship with a really lovely man and I can really truthfully say that this is a relationship which is so satisfying and fulfilling – more than I ever thought a relationship could be. It’s just the most extraordinary experience!
I used to think relationships just weren’t for me and that I was too old to find a loving, committed relationship. Now I’m in a relationship with a really lovely man.
WILLIAM, 34
Before working with Joe I was unsure of myself, as I was starting out on my dating journey and feeling a bit overwhelmed given my lack of experience in this area. Diving in the deep end was essentially what I’d done, but without any real method to what I was doing I couldn’t tell if I was moving forwards or backwards.
I found our work together insightful by being able to get a different perspective on my experiences, and being able to develop a constructive way forward and draw from the experience of someone else.
Since working together I’ve become better at handling and reflecting on the ups and downs, as well as having a better approach to this whole dating thing.
Francisca, 58
Before working with Cara I felt a bit hopeless about my options for love. Cara is a professional, supportive, kind and wise coach who listens well and holds space for me to be heard. She never judges, even if I’m judging myself! Since working with her, I have become clearer on my relationship requirements, which has brought me a greater sense of self-esteem. If I hadn’t made the choice to work with Cara, I think I would have been less well off emotionally, and not have felt so grounded and sure of myself while dating.
It is incredible to have such a great coach who also has skills in hypnotherapy and deep change work. I always feel heard and respected and that is so valuable, especially when navigating relationship challenges.
SAM, 27
I did not have good relationship modelling from my parents, which Joe has helped me understand. He's given me a healthier framework that I can use to assess future potential partners.
Without having done this work, I can guarantee that I would still be making the same mistakes. It's a challenge but I now believe that something better is waiting for me.
Before working with Joe, I was always pursuing women that made me feel crazy and led to toxic relationships
Alexela, 36
Cara is the first person I turn to for support and guidance. With just her presence, she creates a safe space of warmth and grace, while offering clarity that gets straight to the heart of the matter. I’ve had the pleasure of working with her individually and in groups, and no matter the setting, she continuously shows up for others with unwavering integrity, knowledge and skill.
Through our work together, I’ve gained so much clarity, compassion, and trust in myself. I now better understand what truly fulfills me, and because of that, I navigate relationships with stronger boundaries and greater confidence.
Joanne, 42
My biggest takeaway was gaining a deeper understanding of how our core fears and motivations shape the way my partner and I show up in our relationship. Understanding our enneagram types has helped us become more patient and empathetic with each other. This awareness has led to more productive conversations and has made it easier to support each other in the ways we truly need. Cara does an amazing job of making the insights practical and personal, so you walk away with real tools to strengthen your connection.
If you want to deepen your relationship through self-awareness and mutual understanding, working with Cara is absolutely worth it!
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We offer a variety of self-paced programs to support you in attracting and building an extraordinary relationship. Learn how to date for love and build sustainable attraction as you navigate the modern dating scene with more clarity and insight.
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Knowing your relationship archetype reveals your strengths and your pitfalls. It takes you closer to truly understanding modern dating dynamics, improving your relationship skills, and expanding your opportunities to find a great partner.
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