‘Mate’ by Geoffrey Miller and Tucker Max is a book that is designed to help men become more successful in the dating world. It is written by two authors who are experts on the subject – one an academic researcher and the other more of a ‘field expert.’

One of the key themes of the book is that men and women typically have different approaches to dating. The authors argue that men can increase their chances of success by spending time to understand women’s perspective and values when it comes to relationships. 

The book references a plethora of research, showing that amongst other things, women really value effectiveness in men, alongside intelligence, kindness, and the “tender-defender” quality. These traits are often more important to women than superficial things like looks.

‘Mate’ is accessible & interesting, clearly breaks down the research on dating, and provides practical advice for men who are looking for a meaningful relationship. It is especially valuable for men who are looking to deeply consider a woman’s perspective in order to be more successful in dating. We highly recommend it to any single man looking to improve their dating skills.

Great Quotes:

“You can’t just buy a woman a drink and expect her to fall in love with you. You need to be able to engage with her on a deeper level.” 

“Women are looking for a man who can be a good partner and help them feel safe and secure.” 

These quotes highlight the importance of building a strong connection and being a supportive and caring partner, rather than just focusing on superficial tactics.