When Joe & Jiveny first got together, we read this book cover-to-cover and completed the exercises within. The value in doing so is massive, as it opens up many fascinating concepts on why we choose the people we do, as well as providing powerful exercises for a couple to future-proof their relationship.

Getting the Love You Want is a classic resource for anyone looking to understand relationships and learn how to improve them. Based on the Imago Relationship Therapy developed by Hendrix and his wife Helen Hunt (not the actress), the book offers a guide to how attraction works and how we can address the hidden but crucial issues that cause conflict in relationships.

The concept of the “Imago” is insightful, and can be described as a personal map of love that is shaped by our early relationships with our parents & primary carers. As infants, we absorb the experiences of the way we were loved (or not loved). This map becomes hard-wired, playing a big role in the types of partners we attract and the dynamics of our relationships in adulthood.

By understanding our Imago, we can create more awareness within relationships, and identify & resolve issues before they get out of hand. The book is also dedicated to providing practical advice on how to create a safe space for couples to express their feelings and work through conflicts. 

Overall, this book is a must-read for anyone looking to get into or improve their relationship. It is particularly helpful for new couples to read together, as we can testify to! Many people around the world have used this book to understand their choices, transform their relationship, and develop lasting love and companionship.