Stop the swipe-fatigue spiral
So you stop oscillating between swipe-everything and delete-everything. A real strategy beats a shame loop every time.
What's inside
Steal the 12-week high-touch system that turns the apps from a graveyard into a pipeline.
Four modules, twelve weeks, one outcome. By the end of the program you have a profile that pulls right-swipes from the women (or men) you actually want, a message strategy that converts to dates, and the in-person follow-through that turns dates into something real.
- 4 modules across 12 weeks (audio, video, written prompts)
- Personalised profile audit and rewrite from your coach
- Live message-strategy review and weekly office hours
- Lifetime access plus all future updates
What changes
Four shifts the program installs.
Stop running the same app loop and start building the actual pipeline you've been wanting.
Stop the message-graveyard problem
So matches stop dying in the inbox. You'll know how to open, escalate, and convert - without sounding like a pickup script.
Stop dating people you don't actually like
So you stop wasting weekends on people you knew weren't right after the second swipe. Filter properly, date selectively.
Start dating people you'd actually marry
So the apps become a pipeline to the partnership you've been wanting - not another way to feel bad about Saturday nights.
Does this sound like you?
This is for you if:
- You've been on the apps for 12+ months and feel like you're going backwards.
- You're getting matches but they don't convert to dates - or the dates don't go anywhere.
- You're tired of dating advice that sounds like a TikTok bro made it up.
- You want a real strategy, not another inspirational quote about your worth.
- You're open to working 1:1 with a coach who's done the work themselves.
- You're serious - if this is going to work, you're ready to put 30 minutes a day into it.
If you nodded at any of those, the Online Dating Roadmap was built for you.
Why we built this
“We built this because too many of our 1:1 clients were burning out before they got to us.”
When we look at the singles we coach 1:1, the same story keeps showing up. They've cycled through Hinge, Bumble, Tinder, the niche apps - and by the time they reach us, they're exhausted, jaded, and convinced the apps are broken.
The apps aren't broken. The strategy is. Most singles are running an unconscious system that filters out the partners they actually want, opens conversations that go nowhere, and burns six weeks per failed match. We built the Roadmap to give people the system before they hit the burnout wall - not after.
It's the program we wish we could've handed our 1:1 clients three months before they finally booked a call.
Jiveny + Joe
What singles say after running the Roadmap.
Real client transformations
“I'm now married to the man of my dreams - which is huge, because I didn't think it was truly possible.”
Before working with Jiveny I had just come out of a 6-year relationship and was realising I didn't want to repeat the same mistakes. I was much more able to identify partners that weren't suitable for me and avoid them.
“I'm in a secure, committed relationship with an incredible woman.”
I was shy, defeatist, and lacked direction. Thanks to our sessions I learned how to step out of my comfort zone and build confidence. For the first time, I've been able to fully be myself in a relationship.
“I have since found a lifelong partner who I have started a family with.”
Before working with Jiveny I had experienced a handful of serious relationships I'd mostly sabotaged. Applying what I learned in the early stages of this new relationship really helped us progress in a much healthier way.
Inside the program
Four modules. Twelve weeks. One roadmap.
Each module builds on the last - profile to message strategy to date strategy to long-term framework.
Module I · Weeks 1-2
Module I - Profile Foundation
Photo audit, profile rewrite from your coach, prompt strategy, and the bio that filters in the partners you actually want. By end of week 2 your profile is doing the work for you.
Module II · Weeks 3-5
Module II - Message Strategy
Open, escalate, convert. The conversation framework that gets matches to actual dates - without sounding like a pickup script. Includes weekly office hours.
Module III · Weeks 6-9
Module III - Date Strategy
Date types, location strategy, the second-date close, and the early-relationship framework that prevents the situationship trap. The Slow Dating Movement embedded.
Module IV · Weeks 10-12
Module IV - Long-Term Framework
The 4-archetype map for sustainable attraction beyond month three. How to know if this is the partner. How to stop running the loop again.
Investment:
$1,500
$1,500 self-paced or $2,200 VIP (adds 4 weeks of Telegram coaching). Payment plans available at checkout.
Apply Now→Singles who stopped doomscrolling and started dating actual humans.
“I've since met a gorgeous woman whom I can genuinely see a great future with.”
Joe broke the journey down into practical steps which enabled me to feel a sense of progress as I continued to date and let go of self-doubt. Negative early experiences had been taking a toll on my self-esteem - this work turned that around.
“I now don't second-guess my partner's interest, affection and devotion to me.”
Learning about the archetypes was ground-breaking. We're confident we're building a sustainable relationship that will carry us throughout our lives - methodically exploring the right and important questions.
Sustainable attraction beats winning the swipe game
“They say the apps are dead and online dating doesn't work for serious singles anymore.”
It feels true because the loudest voices online want you to either run a high-volume swipe strategy that burns you out, or perform a version of yourself that women (or men) can smell isn't real. Both fail. Neither builds anything that lasts.
The single who actually finds a partner online isn't the one who swipes the most - they're the one who runs a deliberate system. Profile that filters in. Messages that convert. Dates that go somewhere. That's what the Roadmap installs. Sustainable attraction. Real partnership. The relationship you've been quietly hoping for.
Real shift, real life
“I had to redo my profile completely. Within two weeks I was matching with people who were actually my type.”
One client - a 34-year-old engineer - had been on Hinge for 18 months and was about to delete it for the third time. Her profile was technically fine but it was filtering for the wrong men. We rewrote it together in week one of her Roadmap; by week three she was on three dates with men she actually wanted to spend time with. She's now in a committed relationship with one of them.
Inside the Online Dating Roadmap, you get the same map.
Meet Your Mentors
Hi, we're Jiveny and Joe.
We co-founded Dating For Love in 2016, shortly after meeting each other. The Online Dating Roadmap is the program we wish we could've handed every burnt-out single before they got to us 1:1. Inside, you'll work with one of us directly - Jiveny on the women's track, Joe on the men's - plus the full method that nine years of 1:1 client work distilled into one twelve-week roadmap.
Jiveny Blair-West
Co-Founder & Head Coach for Women
Coaches the women's track of the Roadmap. Co-author of How to Make the Biggest Decision of Your Life with her psychiatrist father. Built the four-archetype framework the entire DFL practice runs on.
Joe Oppenheimer
Co-Founder & Head Coach for Men
Coaches the men's track of the Roadmap. Trained at the Relationship Coaching Institute. Spent his own 20s running the same dating loop he now helps men exit - the Roadmap is the program he wishes someone had handed him at 25.
From a real student
“After 18 months of doomscrolling, I had a partner I genuinely wanted in three months.”
I was about to delete the apps for the third time when I joined the Roadmap. The profile rewrite alone was worth it - within two weeks I was matching with people who were actually my type. Three months in I was in a relationship with one of them. The full system, not just one tip - that's what made it work.
Sarah, Age 34
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Ready to stop running the loop?
If you're tired of the same dating cycle and you can feel another year about to disappear into the apps, you deserve a system. Apply for the Online Dating Roadmap - twelve weeks of personalised coaching plus the four-module method that took nine years of client work to distil.
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