Seduction Skills vs. Relationship Skills
Originally published on Jiveny Blair-West's journal on . This DFL edition preserves that original publication date.
I’ve been having some thought-provoking conversations with clients behind the scenes lately, and one recurring theme stands out:
The connection between struggling to attract the right relationship and lacking seduction skills.
Here’s the thing…
To build the relationship of your dreams, you need to develop two sets of skills:
- Seduction Skills
This is all about learning how to attract your ideal mate through sparking interest and creating curiosity. - Relationship Skills
This is about building a secure relationship from the start so you can experience a relationship that lasts.
The Challenge
Most people tend to lean more in one direction than the other. Some have strong seduction skills but lack the relationship skills to take things further. As a result, they get stuck in hookup culture or a series of short-term relationships.
Others possess reasonably good relationship skills and could create a beautifully secure relationship if given the chance. The problem is, they rarely get that chance because they are often overlooked as romantic partners due to a perceived lack of chemistry.
Can you relate to either of these?
Seduction often gets a bad rap, seen as manipulative or shallow. In reality, it’s just a tool—a very useful tool for dating and relationship building. Like a hammer or a saw, it can be used with good or bad intentions.
Players and femme fatales are known for abusing the power of seduction. But just because it can be misused doesn’t make it wrong.
Because here’s the dirty little secret:
We all want to be seduced! (And the French are famous for understanding this.)
In a nutshell, seduction is about creating interest and attraction. It helps us grab attention on the dating scene and can also be very useful in keeping the passion alive in a long-term relationship!
My hope is that you’ll learn to use it responsibly.
In my Alchemy of Attraction program, we cover all bases by teaching both the seduction skills and relationship skills you need to build the relationship of your dreams.
You can learn more about it here.
